People tend to make judgement when somebody speaks or does something. Some people do more, where some people do less.
Don’t you tend to judge while others speak?
Don’t you judge when you see others do anything? Nothing to worry.
I sometimes do. When we make judgement, we don’t focus on the speech we hear, or on the deed we see. Rather we start judging the speaker or doer instantly.
Don’t you then think about what is the motive of the speaker or doer?
Do you think how does the speech or deed serve your purpose?
You judge with these questions. Don’t you?
Make judgement: A general outline
You can make judgement silently or loudly.
Making judgement contracts your mind. So you lose focus what the speaker or doer speaks or does. You keep on judging. Your look at the speaker or doer constantly, but don’t listen to him or don’t pay attention to what he does. You keep your eyes open but keep your heart and ears closed. Furthermore, you shut up the learning mode of your mind. In other words, you slow down your personal development.
When we make judgement silently:
Mostly we fear to speak out our judgement because it focuses on negative aspects of the speaker or doer. Focussing on negative aspects tarnish our mindset, leading to the fixed mindset. A fixed mindset does not help in learning and hence in your overall growth.
Every action comes before a thought. So Judging silently use thoughts. Thoughts are more powerful than words.
Negative thoughts for a long period brings our bad actions. If you do bad actions continuously, you grow bad habits. Series of repeated bad habits make you a bad character. A man of bad character, you do bad things and keep on doing such bad things. It makes continuous bad impressions on your subconscious mind and forces you to make bad actions in the future.
Generally, bad persons come to you for making friends as your negative thoughts attract negative people around you.
When we make judgement loudly:
When you make a harsh judgement loudly, you not only focus on the negative side of the speaker or doer but also hamper the flow of his speaking or doing things. Thus you manifest your bad thoughts that force you to do bad actions and continue to move in the cycle outlined in the above paragraph. In fact, you slow down your personal development.
When you make a fair judgement loudly, the speaker or doer may not take it in the right perspective and may underperform what he does.
If he takes it in the right perspective, he may correct himself.
If you praise loudly through your judgement, the speaker or the doer finds his inspiration and performs well.
Final advice: make judgement
- Never make a habit of making bad judgements. It does not help you grow. It makes others unhappy and even creates conflict. Conflict is a roadblock to your growth.
- Never think of making bad judgement silently. It only binds you with negativity. Negativity also delays your growth.
- Make a habit of making good judgements in public. It makes you a strong character and makes others happy.
Do not forget to give your views.