We perceive through our senses a person, a situation or an event, and in an instant, we project our mental models – our fears, background and experiences – onto that perception. This often results in cognitive errors, which means we judge and respond incorrectly.
“Humans see what they want to see.”
All arguments, all conflicts start due to mismatch of perception of the persons interacting. My perception is how I see the world. It depends on my values, ethics, beliefs, experiences, upbringing, education and so on. The same thing applies to the others also.
For example, two persons facing each other look at a digit made of wood lying on the floor. The first person sees it as digit 6 and the other person sees it as digit 9. What does it happen here? Each person sees it from his own angle. As a result, the same digit appears as 6 to one person and 9 to the other person.
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”